3 Things You Need to Make Changes Last

“And before all else, achieving control over experience requires a drastic change in attitude about what is important and what is not.”

If you read the last post, you would think this entry would begin our discussion about motivation, but as I started to write about it, and its complexity, I realized that I left out a crucial piece of this process. The nature of our approach.

When it comes to change, there are a few things I have discovered through my practice, working with people, and my own experience, that we need to attend to and that will ultimately affect the quality of our experience.

The following concepts suggest a frame of mind and a ceaseless practice that we must cultivate within our pursuit for meaningful progress.  They are:

  • A Growth Mindset
  • Humility
  • Self Accuracy

A Growth Mindset

This is term coined by researcher and psychologist Carol Dweck.  It’s the idea that our intelligence, our aptitude for greatness, is not a fixed trait, but rather a result from learning from our mistakes, and using that information as feedback to adjust our approach, and improve over the course of time.  It champions the idea that the qualities we desire can be developed through our own efforts.

This is an integral part of this process and a crucial understanding.  To personify the idea that we can learn to be better; learn to improve past former benchmarks, and continue to make progress, is essential to our growth and personal development.

Humility

It is a common maxim, you can’t solve your problems with the same level of thinking that created them.

But how do we think differently?

This is where we can employ a healthy amount of skepticism in regards to ourselves.  On a certain level we have to be able to question our approach, our beliefs, and our lines of reasoning in order to elicit solutions outside of our current pool of thoughts and mental resources.  We need to be able to entertain the idea that we may have been doing it all wrong; that there could be a better way.

This will require a level of humility and conscious awareness that most of us are not innately equipped with.  It will call for the suspension of our ego, and an investigation into other perspectives that we may have dismissed or deemed irrelevant due to ignorance or sheer hubris.

Self Accuracy

I touched on this idea a bit HERE with the concept of self knowledge.

To some degree we have to be self accurate.  We have to be honest with ourselves about our current level of ability.  We must have some idea in regards to our strengths and weaknesses.  We must also have an intimate knowledge of the struggles we deal with, as well as our obvious limitations such as schedules and mandatory obligations.  In other words we need to have a basic awareness of the boundaries we are playing within.  And as we grow, learn, and develop skills we can push those boundaries further and further outward.

Taking on a position of learning, having the fortitude to question yourself, and being honest about your current state, and level of skill you posses will set the stage to improve and make progress, in a way that cultivates an ease of pursuit.  It reinforces the idea that perfection is goal meant for the disillusioned, and that purposeful study is much more noble path.

I should note this list is subject to change, because even in writing this there are pieces I think should be elaborated on in more depth, and I will probably do so in more posts to come.

But for the time being, this will serve as our starting point.

So as you embark on this road to change keep these ideas in mind and continue to nurture these concepts in your practice to be a little bit better (even the slightest bit better) than you were yesterday.